I have limited knowledge of our cycle and use of DE to a very small group of people. My mother, Ts parents, and a couple of friends are the only ones we've told. For one, i just have a need to keep this more private than the last few cycles, and two - to tell the truth, we've really grown apart from many of our friends over the past 2-3 years as they have all started families while we still deal with IF.
One friend who knows what is going on, e-mailed me Monday evening to ask how the transfer went. She herself struggled to get pregnant, and has twins via IVF who just turned one. Recently, though, she found out she is pregnant again - with an "oops" baby it appears, even though she had once been told she could never get pregnant on her own.
Anyway, I very briefly filled this friend in on the latest cycle developments. She wrote back:
Well, one is still better than none, so I will cross my fingers. You never know, it might take and let's look on the bright side - did you really want to have twins or triplets? probably not. So in the end, this might be a good thing.
Um yeah - after having invested 4 years, countless tears, and tens of thousands of dollars, having only one 7-celled embryo to transfer (as an ivf patient I'm sure shes familiar with the success rates on single embryo transfer!) is A GOOD THING! I didn't want to be able to freeze embryos for a second chance or anything - or God forbid actually if I am lucky enough to have a child from this, be able to give him/her a genetically related sibling!
I guess I'll have to close the circle a little smaller. I SWEAR!
We should all get together and publish a book - "1001 dumbest things people ever said to an infertile."
